It is not the first time that my culture shock has been
triggered by familiarity; that onslaught of white people, cleanliness, and English. It is far more often this reverse culture shock that sends me into a tailspin
than say… a cow shitting on my foot in an Indian spice market. And so, when I
flew from the Amazon sauna to the highlands of Scotland, the case was no
different. It was a sensory overload of perfectly ordered cobblestone streets,
of white people talking quietly in flawless guttural Scottish
melodies, toilet paper that could be flushed, and water that could be drank,
sweet Jesus, STRAIGHT from the tap. But adjusting was simple, and I easily fell into the UK pace and the sweet smells of
Scottish breakfasts alongside the (long overdue) company of my American
boyfriend and his Chicagoan family.
But, this post isn’t about
me; it’s about LV (the bride) and the family responsible for my 10-day stint in
the land of Scots. Evidence of their awesomeness provided below. <3
There were castles and cows. There were mountains and ten-
mile trail runs, but through it all, there was food. Scottish breakfasts from the expert kitchens of B&B owners like James the Great and David the Moose, which held enough food on one plate for a small family. And afternoons were capped off with pints of Guinness and Arran ale, snacks of fresh cheese and oatcakes, and always Scottish shortbread. The nights were filled with fried fish and haggis (a type of meat I still do not fully understand nor am I capable of explaining), and wine sipped in cottage armchairs while the days were dotted with epic hikes and castle tours, or soft trails leading to ancient graves and white waterfalls.
mile trail runs, but through it all, there was food. Scottish breakfasts from the expert kitchens of B&B owners like James the Great and David the Moose, which held enough food on one plate for a small family. And afternoons were capped off with pints of Guinness and Arran ale, snacks of fresh cheese and oatcakes, and always Scottish shortbread. The nights were filled with fried fish and haggis (a type of meat I still do not fully understand nor am I capable of explaining), and wine sipped in cottage armchairs while the days were dotted with epic hikes and castle tours, or soft trails leading to ancient graves and white waterfalls.
The lighting was sunset perfect, not in the way that we
know sunsets but in the way that only the eerie long-way-north of-the-equator
light can create. In place of standard sapphires, the sky was a perplexing
cascade of blue and gray, a type of constant dusk that plays in continuous mockery of the unaccustomed
eye.
There was no music or pageantry as Lauren walked down the sand aisle, held on each side by her mother and brother. The
silence seemed awkward at first, but once it settled, you realized that the
music accompanying the ceremony was the lapping of the waves of the Firth of Clyde
on the stony shore of the Isle of Arran.
Mike dropped the rings, Lauren teared while reciting her
vows, and in under 15 minutes, they were kissing as man and wife. There were no
bagpipes or kilts in the ceremony, white horses or lavish string quartets; the
only thing cliché about this wedding was the absurd rainbow that appeared over
the beach during dinner. Lauren dropped her bite of smoked salmon, made eye
contact with Mike and the photographer and within seconds they were in the sand
beneath the now Double rainbow that conveniently adorned the already picturesque
ceremony.
Fully fed, toasted, and photographed, the wedding moved
to dancing, and the dancing moved to a slow rhythmic wind down. The whole thing made me think of the
elaborate weddings that have become definitions of acceptable in the States. Perfectly
coordinated, yawn evoking church ceremonies, and hour-long bridesmaids speeches...when did we decide that self-designed menus and paper napkins weren’t
acceptable? Who made it law that a slick wooden floor was more appropriate than
a makeshift living room dance floor? This wedding was personal, and not just
for the bride and groom, but for each guest who undoubtedly felt like part of
the union, rather than simply another place setting.